November Progress | December Goals 2018

November Progress | December Goals 2018

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Hi, friend! I’m so glad you’re here.

You know what a new month means: PowerSheets update! I love reflecting  and preparing for what’s the come with these posts. They may just be my favorite because it gives you a glimpse into my world and (I hope!) inspires you to create your own. 

It’s great to have goals, but you become unstoppable when you write them down. My goal planner is that reminder to set meaningful goals and then that encourager to take the next right steps to make them happen. 

November Progress

Monthly Goals

  • Last 90 Days Challenge: Another month down of this challenge. I’m really enjoying it because it’s giving me something to focus my energy on in addition to my morning routine. It’s helping to keep me on track which is much appreciated at this point in the year. 
  • Budget communication — Add $3,000 to savings: We were able to go above and beyond here woohoo! I’m so grateful and impressed by how well this goal is growing. Little by little truly adds up, yall.
  • Contentment Challenge: This challenge was SO good that it deserves its own post. So that’ll be coming next week — stay tuned. In case you missed it, I’m referencing this challenge and I highly encourage you give it a go!
  • Progress at work — 3 sales: We didn’t quite hit 3, but we did get 2. That’s progress! It’s a new month and a new opportunity to reach goals.
  • Simplify a space: Thanks to the Contentment Challenge, I simplified a lot of spaces in November. Specifically my closet, Eric’s closet, the office closet, and many other spaces around our home. It feels more peaceful at home, which I love. 
  • Create a “Personal Timeline”: Done! This is an idea I got from the Happier Podcast with Gretchen Rubin. The point is to create a timeline of your life noting the important milestone moments. It’s like a resume, but for your whole life. I got it started and it’ll take some time to think through, but I got a big chunk down on paper. It’s helpful to remember special dates and is a cool way to reflect. I wish I had started it sooner!
  • Research/plan Rise Weekend: This one only got halfway complete because Rise Weekend sold out before I could grab a ticket. Bummer! Oh well, what’s meant to be will be.
  • Hospitality with our Small Group: Hospitality is a theme for me lately. In November we hosted our small group for a meeting and we had a Friendsgiving where we brought a sweet potato casserole and yummy dessert from Nothing Bundt Cakes. Hospitality is becoming one of my favorite ways to love my people. 
  • Successful realtor event: Check! We hosted an exclusive realtor event at our model home. The event had a great turnout, helped us get useful feedback, and cultivated connections.
  • Plan a holiday get together: The month slipped away from me, so this got moved to December as you’ll see later on.

Weekly Goals

  • Dream about future — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Speak life to/over Eric — Achieved 4/5 weeks
  • Blog post published + shared — Achieved 3/4 weeks
  • Use my voice well — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Rest + care — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Cultivate healthy phone boundaries — Achieved 5/5 weeks

It feels a bit ironic to discuss a goal I specifically chose not to do one week, but here we are. I love this little corner of the internet and the community we’re cultivating, but sometimes it’s better for me to take a step back. I made the decision to skip a post the week of Thanksgiving – reasonable. I totally could have powered through and got a post up just to keep the consistency, but I didn’t. It honestly felt good to give myself a break and focus on my best work instead of just checking it off. 

If you’re feeling called to rest, listen and do. 

Daily Goals

Lots of faith progress happened in November! I want to savor the meaning of this season and continue to dig deeper into my relationship with the Lord. Praying with Eric has not only strengthened my faith, but also our marriage. It helps unify us. We pray before we go to sleep — sometimes I try to make the excuse that I’m too tired (there may be days we do fall asleep), but I always feel more at peace when we take the moment to pray. 

December Goals

Monthly Goals

  • Last 90 Days Challenge
  • Add $3,000 to savings
  • 3 sales
  • Holiday get together
  • Set up 2019 PowerSheets
  • Set up 2019 Simplified Planner
  • Love my people well
  • Savor the season
  • Pure Barre 250 Club
  • Blog rebranding

Weekly Goals

  • Speak life to/over Eric
  • Blog post published + shared
  • Rest + care
  • Create margin
  • Date Eric intentionally

Daily Goals

  • Pray with E
  • Finish devo
  • Luke Bible reading

We’ve got less than a month left to soak up 2018. You don’t have to wait for January 1st to make things happen. Start right now, today! It may seem like it’s too late to get started, so you might as well wait. But why not start taking steps in the right direction? Momentum will build and you’ll be that much closer if you begin now. 

What will you accomplish before the new year? You totally got this!

November 2018 Round Up

November 2018 Round Up

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year…

We’re in the midst of the holiday season which makes me excited, but also a bit panicked. Our busy schedules get even more packed and our budget is put to the test. Can you relate?

November was one of those months that felt long and short at the same time. You know the kind. It was good. It was productive. It was somewhat restful. It went by in a blink. Here’s a glimpse into my month.

3 things I’m excited about

  1. Setting up my PowerSheets and Simplified Planner for 2019: If you have yours, then you understand. I’m trying to hold off digging into my 2019 goal planner and life planner until we get a bit closer to the end of the year, but I don’t know how much longer I can wait! Not to be dramatic, but honestly these tools have transformed my life since I started using them. Guess it never hurts to be extra organized and prepared 😉 
  2. Ending the year strong: This is my favorite time of the year. Excitement and joy are in the air and I soak it up! It’s also the time of the year where I tend to backslide on my healthy habits and wait until the new year to get back on track. Not this year! Rachel Hollis’ #Last90Days is helping me finish well. 
  3. Rebranding for Flourish With Rach: Soon this little corner of the internet will have a new look — yay! I love the logo I have now done by my sweet, talented friend, but I have been wanting to do an update for a while. I want my site name and logo to be consistent. I’m constantly growing and evolving, so our look here will do the same. 

Quote I’ve been meditating on

The more grateful I am, the more beauty I see.

Mary Davis

I totally believe this. We find what we’re looking for. Since the beginning of October I have been doing a gratitude practice — each night I write down 10 things I’m grateful for. I try not to repeat things, so at first it was pretty easy. I did the obvious: health, my marriage, my family, my friends, etc. Now that I’ve been doing it a while, I have to think deeper and seek out things to be grateful for. I find them because I’m searching for them.

I find so much more joy in the little moments because I’m taking the time to acknowledge and appreciate them. Life is more beautiful when we’re grateful. 

Who or what I’m adoring

Ebates

Yall. If you aren’t using Ebates when you’re doing your online shopping, I’m sorry to say you’re seriously missing out! Ebates allows you to do your regular online shopping, but when you shop through Ebates, you can earn cash back that they pay out once a quarter to your Paypal. It’s so easy to use. Plus who doesn’t want to earn some extra money on the shopping they’re doing anyways!? 

For my friends that aren’t using Ebates, lets fix that. Sign up for free here + you’ll get $10 bonus after your first purchase. Tons of stores participate, so be sure to do your Christmas shopping here! You’re welcome in advance ❤ 

Favorite memory from November

Thanksgiving Day feels like an obvious choice, but it was extra sweet. We got to spend time with both families — my family and my in-laws. When I say it was a long day, I mean it was a loooonnnnng day. But absolutely worth it!

Last minute mimosas, laughter, catching up and sharing stories, delicious lunch spread at the Coopers. The older I get, the more I appreciate leftovers, especially ones coming from a Thanksgiving meal! My only regret: not taking more pie. 

More food, loving on the little ones, games (rematches coming at Christmas, I’m sure), karaoke, seeing friends and family at the Torreses. Usually my husband’s family is out of town for Thanksgiving, so it was fun to be with them. 

A good lesson I learned

If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. 

Ask for the things you want! I have been working on using my voice more. Speaking up for myself and making sure I get the things I need. I understand we live in a world where we can’t always get what we want. But I also understand that nobody is reading my mind, so if I want something, I have to let that be known. If I don’t speak up and then it doesn’t happen, that’s on me. Asking doesn’t guarantee getting, but it tends to work out.

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

In December…

I’m saying no to: overemphasis on gifts.

I’m saying yes to: celebration.

Routine + tips + products for your best skin

Routine + tips + products for your best skin

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Ironically, my skin is currently misbehaving. Maybe it’s the excess of sugar lately causing the breakouts. I really should be better about following my own advice. Whoops. Well, regardless, my skin has generally been better than ever!

I’ve had a long history of problem skin. Acne, sensitivity, redness. My skin and I weren’t very good friends. In its defense, I probably didn’t treat it as well as I should have. A lot of my friends had flawless skin and I was stuck with breakouts. People can be mean. I remember being picked on in middle school for it. It took a toll on my confidence and I desperately wished for clear, beautiful skin.

Your smile, your face. It’s one of the first things people notice when they look at you. But when your skin is struggling, you really don’t want people to notice you at all. So if you’re struggling now, I feel you.

This advice is based on many years of striving for improvement and figuring out what works best for me. My hope is that it’s helpful for you. You’re beautiful and you deserve to feel that way. 

My skin care routine

I used to be someone that washed my face ALL the time because I thought that would help, but I realized how irritating and stripping that can be for my skin.

My routine is always evolving as I learn more about good skin habits and what works best for me. I’m open to mixing things up if I think it’ll benefit me, but this is what’s been working for now!

AM 

After I brush my teeth, I splash my face with cool water. This helps wake me and my skin up! Next I’ll put toner on a cotton ball and wipe that all over, removing anything that’s settled on my skin over night. If I do a workout in the morning, I’ll usually wait until after for the toner to remove any sweat, dirt, etc.

PM 

As soon as possible, I wash my face at the end of the day. I use a cleanser with my favorite cleansing tool (see my fave products below), which helps remove any makeup and also acts as an exfoliator. Next, I do the toner/cotton ball all over to remove anything the cleanser missed. I follow that up with whatever my skin is needing at the moment (face mask, acne spot treatment, serum, moisturizer, etc)

My best tips

  • Let your skin breathe — I try to go makeup free as much as possible. Not only does it save time and money because you’re using less products, but it gives your skin a chance to breathe. If it’s a day where I choose to wear makeup, I remove it as soon as possible. This makes me feel clean and like I’m being good to my skin.
  • Keep it simple with your routine and products — You don’t need a complicated 19 step routine to have healthy skin. Most of the time, less is more. Doing too much can lead to irritation and further problems. A quality cleanser, toner, and moisturizer is a good place to begin.
  • Practice consistency and patience — Another reason to keep it simple: it’ll be easier to be consistent. The habit is cumulative. You won’t necessarily ruin your skin by skipping your routine one night, but a week of that? Not so good. It will take time for your skin to respond, so be patient, but also be willing to switch things up if something isn’t working.
  • Use “good for you” products — I’m going to talk about some of my favorites in a bit, but seek out products that are natural, non-toxic, and cruelty-free. All that good stuff. Luckily companies are hearing that we want access to non-harmful products, so finding them has gotten so much easier. Your skin is your largest organ and what you put on it matters. Plus, we vote with our dollar, so spending is a good way to demonstrate priority. Companies listen to money.
  • Hydrate — I’m sure we all know that drinking water has amazing benefits for your body and your health. Your skin is no different. Your skin is an organ and just like any other part of your body, it’s made up of cells. These cells are made up of water, so it’s needed for the organ to perform at its best. A hydrating moisturizer will be a great partner with the drinking water.
  • Nutrition — Did we see this one coming? Your skin is a good indicator of how things are going on the inside. If you’re fueling your body with whole, healthy foods, your skin will likely reflect that. If you’re consuming tons of sugar, carbs, greasy foods, your skin will likely reflect that too. I know those foods are tasty, but it’s all about moderation and what your nutrition looks like as a whole.
  • Take care of yourself — Sleep, exercise, relax. No part of our body is an island, they all affect each other. Have you noticed how your skin probably breaks out when you’re super stressed? The stress plays a part, but you’re also probably not sleeping well, you’re skipping your workouts, you’re eating more junk to feel a little better. It’s all intertwined. Be mindful and take steps to care for yourself. 
  • Stick to what works best for you — At the end of the day, you need to do what works best for you. There is no “one size fits all” when it comes to health. There’s no perfect skin care routine or perfect product. You may need to try many different things before you settle on what works. Be patient, give yourself grace, and take the advice that meshes well with you.

My favorite products

  • Cleansing tool — This tool has made such a difference in my skin! It makes it feel so clean and has greatly improved its tone and texture. I love that I don’t have to buy replacement brushes since it’s made of antimicrobial touch points. It lasts forever on a charge and travels well. I can’t ever go back.
  • Thayers Alcohol-Free Witch Hazel Toner (Rose Petal) from Thrive Market — Snag this toner and tons of other amazing products for 25% off with that link. Some of my other faves are the Primal Kitchen Avocado Oil Mayo, Purely Elizabeth Chocolate Sea Salt Probiotic Granola, and the Thrive Market brand staples. So handy to have great products sent right to your door! 
  • Primally Pure — I adore this brand! PP has incredible non-toxic skincare that actually works. I’m a huge fan of their natural deodorant, Everything Spray, and lip balm. They have a wonderful Starter Kit Bundle that’ll help you transition to natural products and allow you to try their best, which is how I started. Get 10% off your entire first purchase with code RACHELT.
  • Beauty Counter — I’m slowly, but surely, transitioning all my products to healthier, “good for you” products. Beauty Counter is a makeup and skincare brand that believes in transparency and safer skincare… Yes please! My good friend is a BC Consultant, so if you have any questions she or I can help!
  • Prescription products from my dermatologist — Never underestimate a good dermatologist. I know there’s countless products out there, but you don’t have to do this alone. Of course, it’s good to have your skin checked for any abnormalities, but they can also help with any of your annoyances. I was actually able to get a cleanser, moisturizer, and retinoid gel for free with my insurance. Win!

What’s your best skin care tip? Do you have a favorite product you can’t go without? I’m always open to mixing up my routine with something better, so I’d love to hear what works best for you!

October Progress | November Goals 2018

October Progress | November Goals 2018

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Hi, friend. How are you doing?

How are you really doing? We’re officially in the final two months of 2018. The holidays, the gatherings, the meals, the presents, the hectic schedules, the joy, the stress. It’s all coming and I couldn’t be more excited!

It’s these seasons — crazy, busy, full speed ahead — that I’m especially grateful for my PowerSheets. They keep me focused on what really matters and encourage me to take the next right step. I’m not sure what my October would have looked like without them, but I made great progress with them…

October Progress

Monthly Goals

  • Last 90 Days Challenge: Eric and I have been doing Rachel and Dave Hollis’ #Last90Days challenge. This challenge focuses on five areas: wake up 1 hour early, workout for at least 30 mins, drink half your body weight in oz of water, give up one food category you know isn’t good, write down 10 things you’re grateful for. As you can imagine, each day hasn’t been perfect, but I’m being more mindful which makes a difference.
  • Add $2,000 to savings — budget communication: We went above and beyond this goal, yay! We still have a ways to go toward our big goal, but every bit adds up and it feels really good to make progress.
  • Contentment Challenge: Moving this to November.
  • Parade of Homes — represent well: Parade of Homes went so well! A lot of people visited our model and had great feedback about our floorplan and design. Although my particular model didn’t win an award, three of our company’s homes did. It was fun to be a part of.
  • Growth at work — 3 sales: Make that four sales for October! Four soon-to-be owners of beautiful homes. Yay!
  • Simplify a space: Eric decluttered and organized the garage. We both worked on the storage closet underneath our stairs. Simplifying these spaces has made such a difference in how I feel when I’m in them.
  • Celebrate + Share PowerSheets Launch: The launch was wonderful! So many friends getting their very own set of PowerSheets for 2019, which means so many lives will be impacted for the better! You’re not too late. Grab yours and join us in the intentional fun!
  • Create “Facts of Life” book: This is an idea I got from the podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. You take a binder and put all your important life documents in it (latest insurance policy, loan documents, birth certificate, life insurance policy, mortgage information, etc). It’s all in one place so it’s easy to locate and use.
  • Create “Personal Timeline”: Also moving this to November.
  • Dream about future: Eric and I have been dreaming together and it has been so much fun! Dreaming about our future home, future family, future career directions. It helps us to get on the same page and set goals together.

Weekly Goals

  • Speak life to/over Eric — Achieved 4/5 weeks
  • Be an encouragement — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Blog post published + shared intentionally — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Use my voice — boldly + mindfully — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Rest + care — Achieved 5/5 weeks
  • Cultivate healthy phone boundaries — Achieved 5/5 weeks

Cultivating healthy phone boundaries has been so impactful on my days and peace of mind. I’m giving myself time and space from my apps which I really needed. Before I was spending too much time scrolling my phone when I really should have been doing other things like sleeping or spending time with Eric. It honestly felt a bit out of control, but I didn’t know how to fix it. I talked all about cultivating these boundaries in a recent post, so if this is an area you struggle with too, be encouraged here.

Daily Goals

My faith has been a major focus in my day to day as you can see from these daily goals. By digging into God’s Word and being in communication with Him, I have felt more grounded and capable of handling the crazy. Journaling my thoughts and prayers has been therapeutic. I don’t always feel like doing it because it does take time and I have to focus, but I’m always so glad I did.

November Goals

Monthly Goals

  • Last 90 Days Challenge
  • Budget communication — Add $3,000 to savings
  • Contentment Challenge
  • Progress at work — 3 sales
  • Simplify a space
  • Create a “Personal Timeline”
  • Research/plan Rise Weekend
  • Hospitality with our Small Group
  • Successful realtor event
  • Plan a holiday get together

Weekly Goals

  • Dream about future
  • Speak life to/over Eric
  • Blog post published + shared
  • Use my voice well
  • Rest + care
  • Cultivate healthy phone boundaries

Daily Goals

It may seem like there’s not much time left to make things happen. But there is. You don’t have to wait for January 1st to start going after your goals. You can start right now! Get that positive momentum going so you can begin 2019 even further ahead.

What will you be making progress on in November?

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October 2018 Round Up

October 2018 Round Up

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Happy Halloween, friend!

I know that Halloween comes at the very end of October. I know that Halloween has been coming for a while thanks to the constant showings of Hocus Pocus (my fave!). But it’s still kinda hard for me to wrap my mind around October being over. It came and went so quickly!

That’s the same story every month — I’m always surprised how quickly the days and weeks pass. A lot happened this month and there’s wonderful things to come, so lets recap it, shall we??

3 things I’m excited about

  1. The holidays: This doesn’t need much explanation, right? This is my favorite time of the year. So much joy, celebration, and time with loved ones. This year we’ll be doing a Friendsgiving dinner with our small group — already looking forward to the food and fellowship. It’s another opportunity to make memories with family and friends. I’m here for it.
  2. Flawless Facial Hair Remover: This one is bit weird, but I’m all about products that make my life easier. Thank you, Ulta, for this incredible tool. I know we don’t like to talk about it, but ladies, we all have that bit of peach fuzz along our chin and lip that keep our makeup from looking flawless. If you don’t, continue reading. Ok, now the ones that are being honest — you need this! It’s so easy to use and works amazingly! Ulta currently has a 20% off coupon on their website through Nov 3rd, so go grab it!
  3. Election Day: I’m not one for politics, but as I get older, I understand more and more the power and privilege of using my voice. I know we won’t all agree on candidates and policies, which is totally fine. But no matter what you think is “right,” exercise your right to vote! I’m also just really ready for the political commercials and mailers to take a break 🙂

Quote I’ve been meditating on

“When you focus on the good, the good gets better.”

This quote is gold and definitely something I’ve been trying to improve on. It can be easy to focus on the negative — the things that didn’t go your way, the things that annoy you, the things you want to change. And then it seems like that list can keep getting longer. The same is true of the positive. If you keep looking for good things, you’ll keep finding them. It’s all about perspective and contentment. ❤

Who or what I’m adoring

PowerSheets

The 2019 PowerSheets collection finally launched October 24th! They are absolutely stunning!!! 2019 will be my third year utilizing PowerSheets to help me be intentional in setting and achieving goals and it just keeps getting better.

The Cultivate What Matters team make adjustments every year to improve the incredible tool and I love what they’ve done! I talked all about my PowerSheets and gave a little sneak peek in my previous post here. If you’re anything like me and can benefit from guidance and encouragement when it comes to goal setting, the PowerSheets are for you!

Favorite memory from October

Aside from the usual, the major focus at work in October was the Parade of Homes. This is an annual event done over 3 weekends where builders in the Triangle area can showcase their homes and design — it’s the largest open house of the year! The public is invited to visit the homes in the Parade to learn about the latest updates in design and home building. It’s so fun to show off our beautiful homes! This year my company had six homes in the Parade and the model in my community was one of them.

The homes get judged and there is a Gala to present the awards. The Parade of Homes Gala was my favorite memory in October because it was an awesome chance for Eric and I to dress up and celebrate the fruits of our team’s hard work. It was even more special because the event was held at my alma mater, NC State University. I even wore the perfect color: red.

I love embracing the opportunities to enjoy my industry and get to know others within it. I try to say yes to the different events and this one was well worth it!

A good lesson I learned

Your words are powerful.

This has been the topic of sermons at church for the last several weeks and it’s working in me. I love words and I definitely believe in their power, but until recently I didn’t fully understand how powerful they are. Anything good or bad that has happened is most likely due to the chosen string of words.

Because of this teaching and realization, I have tried to be more careful with my words. I’m striving to use them to build others up through encouragement and truth. I’m also working on the way I speak to myself. It doesn’t have to be verbalized to make an impact. I challenge you to take a look at the words you use and see if you can improve them to speak more life in yourself and those around you.

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
-Proberbs 18:21

In November…

I’m saying no to: comparison.

I’m saying yes to: gratitude.

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My #1 Goal Setting Tool

My #1 Goal Setting Tool

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Have you ever found something that you never knew you needed, but once you had it you couldn’t imagine life without it?

For me, that is the PowerSheets.

That may sound a bit dramatic to feel that way about a beautifully bound intentional goal setting planner, but if you own a set you totally understand.

When the happy mail arrives

If you’ve been around here for a little while, you’ve surely seen my monthly posts about my progress and goals using the incredible PowerSheets.

I have always been a fan of planners and writing things down. For as long as I can remember, I’ve believed in the power of goals and the importance of setting them. Before the PowerSheets came into my life, I would write down my goals, sure, but they didn’t always have a true sense of purpose. I felt a little lost in setting them, so they weren’t as meaningful as I would hope.

My well-loved PowerSheets through the years: 2017, 2018, 2019

Last year, 2017, was my first experience with PowerSheets. I could hardly wait to start the prep work and get my goals ready! Although it was challenging and it certainly took a good amount of time to thoughtfully work through and prepare my goals, I was hooked. I finally had a vision for my goals and goal setting in general.

My PowerSheets feels like a cheerleader I can carry around with me. She encourages me to reach farther and picks me up when a goal isn’t accomplished or a dream changes direction.

Because of my work in my PowerSheets, I think about my goals, my time, and my daily actions differently. I’m better (and improving) at letting things go that don’t serve me in this season. I’m understanding it’s okay to say no because that means I can say yes to what’s more important. I’m learning and experiencing each day that little by little progress adds up!

I am a Cultivator.

I strive to cultivate beautiful things in my life.

Faith.
Relationships.
Health and wellness.
Financial peace.
Success at work.
Contentment.
Peace.
Rest.
Joy.

You know what the best part is? We don’t have to do this alone. You can be a Cultivator too and you can start right now. Do you need some guidance? Start with your very own set of PowerSheets. You can do things in these final few months of 2018 that will set up 2019 to be your best year YET!

#1: Order your PowerSheets Oct 24th at 10am EST!

#2: Dig into the work and get messy.

I promise you won’t regret it ❤

What I love most about the PowerSheets is the prep work. These are pages before you even get to setting your goals where you consider what’s working/not working, how different areas of your life are currently, and how you want to grow in the coming year.

The question that always makes me ponder hard and smile at the same time: Where do I want to be when I’m 80? My answer to that question helps me cultivate a life that adds up to 80 year old Rachel’s reality.

It’s hard to say where I would be today without my trusty PowerSheets, but I’m glad I don’t have to know. I believe this amazing tool has allowed me to reach higher and go farther than I would’ve done all on my own. It has helped me to realize goals and go after things that are scary, but ultimately so good!

Friend, if you’re feeling stuck in your goals, it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a community of Cultivators waiting to cheer you on! Grab your goal setting tool and lets dig in.

Will you be grabbing your set of PowerSheets!? Let me know below so we can crush our goals together! Do you have any questions about how to cultivate what matters?

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Cultivating healthy phone boundaries

Cultivating healthy phone boundaries

We have a powerful tool right at our fingertips: our phone.

It’s an amazing source for connection, business, and entertainment. It’s also an unfortunate source of distraction as I’m sure we’ve all experienced. How many hours have you wasted mindlessly scrolling Instagram or checking your email for the 104th time? For me, it’s way too many to count.

I love those apps on my phone, but there’s a time and a place for using and enjoying them. I knew something about my habit needed to change when I was beginning and ending my day on my phone. That kept me up too late and took away precious time I could/should be using for other more important things.

Boundaries needed to be determined. 

The boundaries have been set and my relationship with my phone is so much healthier. To help make the boundary setting easier for you, I’m sharing nine tips that I used to make it happen.

Use an actual alarm clock, not your phone.

I’m not as self disciplined as I need to be first thing in the morning. If I use my phone as my alarm clock, it’s way too easy to just open it up and play with it in bed. That’s not how I want to use my first moments of the day. Spend the money and purchase an alarm clock — it’s well worth it.

Charge your phone away from your bed.

Since your phone is no longer your alarm clock, you can move it away from your nightstand. Put your phone to “bed” at your designated time and let it charge there. Ideally this is outside of your bedroom, but at the very least across your room. Removing it from your immediate space will keep you from mindlessly using it.

Set and respect time limits.

I highly recommend limiting your screen time. I’ve found it’s easiest for me when I create concrete “rules” (like no phone after 10pm) because it takes the thought out of it. Set time limits that work best for you. The blue light emitted from our devices negatively affects our sleep, so take that into consideration when choosing your phone’s bedtime.

Apple released a built in app called Screen Time and it’s the best! You can set time limits for certain apps, big ones for me being social networking and productivity (apps like email). It tracks your usage and will actually “lock” apps if you’ve gone over your limit. I have my time limit set from 10pm-10am so that I’m giving myself plenty of time at night and in the morning to take care of myself and have a break from my phone. If you have an iPhone, this is a must! I’ve heard of other apps and websites that do similar functions, but I love that it’s just built into the phone’s software.

Unfollow/unsubscribe/delete.

Clean up your digital life. Are you following someone you don’t enjoy seeing? Unfollow. Are you getting emails that you always delete? Unsubscribe. Are there apps on your phone that you never use? Delete. You’ll spend less time on your phone when you’re not having to sort through so much extra stuff.

Turn off push notifications.

If you’re anything like me, you feel a sudden need to check your phone when a notification comes through. The point of push notifications is to grab your attention and make you click through to whatever it’s notifying you about. Use your phone on your own time and desire, so say goodbye to those push notifications. You can check in when you want and the notifications will still be there.

Practice social media/phone free time.

It’s a great habit to practice social media free days and phone free time. For my husband and I, date nights are generally phone free. We don’t mind a quick Instagram story to share something cool we’re doing or grabbing a photo to document the fact that we dressed up. BUT we don’t want to be the couple that’s spending their whole dinner with faces in the phones. The best things in life are experienced away from our phones.

Schedule posts in advance.

You might be someone that runs a small business and absolutely needs to use your phone — I totally get it! Try creating and scheduling your posts (social media, blog, podcast, etc) in advance and then set aside some time to engage on that post once it’s live. You’ll be more intentional with your time and actually free yourself from feeling like you need to be glued to your phone.

Enjoy phone free hobbies.

Get outside. Read a physical book. Play a board or card game. Take your dog on a walk. Put the phone down and enjoy. And don’t feel the pressure to pick up the phone to share about what you’re doing with all your friends. It still happened even if you didn’t share it.

Seek accountability.

Accountability can be with another person or with your phone itself. The Screen Time app I was talking about provides a huge source of accountability for me. It literally “locks” my apps at a certain time so I can have downtime. It’s helpful to share your goals for healthy boundaries with someone else because they may have good ideas to overcome your struggles and can encourage you to be phone free when you’re together. I believe accountability is always a good thing when we’re talking about something we want to improve.

There ya have it! Nine tangible tips and my favorite tool to help you cultivate healthy phone boundaries. Is this an area you struggle in? Which tip will you implement first?

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