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I’m a big fan of reflecting at the end of a year.
What didn’t work?
What did I learn?
A year can feel long and short at the same time. A lot happens in 365 days. If I don’t dedicate some time to look back, I won’t be moving forward as strong as I could. My goal setting planner, PowerSheets, actually builds this practice into the prep work. Perfect!
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I’m sure you’ve learned many things in 2018. There is benefit to learning lessons from others without necessarily having to experience them yourself. Or sometimes we need the reminder of the lesson we’ve learned before. In no particular order, here’s the lessons I’ve learned this year.
- Removing my phone means better nights and mornings. I’ve gotten into a better rhythm of “putting my phone to bed.” I went into detail of phone boundaries in this post, but to keep it short and sweet: phone boundaries have definitely improved my morning and evening routines.
- Sometimes stepping back from a responsibility is the best thing I can do. I believe I’m a type 2 on the Enneagram. If that means nothing to you, I’m a helper. I want to say yes and often times I commit to way too many things. In the event I can step back from something I’ve already said “yes” to, it can be helpful. But more importantly, I’m trying to learn and demonstrate the use of my best yes.
- Things don’t always go according to plan, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad. There is joy in the moment. Even when I didn’t plan it this way. Even when it’s not what I would have chosen. Much of life doesn’t happen the way I would expect, so it’s better to embrace it.
- It’s okay (even necessary at times) to say no in order to protect my energy. More Ennegram 2 coming out. More learning to do with how to use my most powerful words: yes and no. Maybe next year that’ll be a lesson learned. For now, I’m realizing the growth that is possible.
- Word of mouth can go far and do wonders! My husband’s ice cream shop, Vida Dulce, opened this year. We honestly relied on word of mouth and social media. Reviews and recommendations are so powerful! If there’s a place you love, share about it! It means the world.
- It’s important to take the time to celebrate others. If you want to be celebrated, you should celebrate others. Of course it’s fun to celebrate our achievements and milestones. But wow, it’s amazing to be a part of celebrating other people! This year, we celebrated weddings, graduations, new businesses, new homes, new jobs, and so much more. It helps build bonds with the people in your life and make your world so much sweeter.
- Just go to bed earlier… it can wait. I had gotten into a bad habit of going to bed too late because “one more thing” needed to get done or I lost track of time. No matter what, it can wait. The rest is worth it.
- I actually am stronger than I think. Mentally. Physically. I’m stronger than I thought and I realize that more and more each time I push myself to do a little bit more than I thought I could.
- All things are fixable — don’t stress. Stress only makes things worse. I can’t think of many things that can’t be fixed, so might as well not stress.
- Words are powerful. Proverbs says life and death are in the power of the tongue and I believe that fully. We have the power to build people up or tear them down with our words. The same is true of ourselves and our thoughts. I should be mindful with how I use my words and thoughts.
- If I don’t ask, the answer is always no. I can’t expect to get what I want and/or need unless I go for it. The answer may still be “no” or “not right now,” but at least I did my part.
- It may not feel like it in the moment, but it’s always worth it to be patient and kind. I can get super impatient. It can be very tempting to be rude right back to the person that obviously woke up on the wrong side of the bed. BUT it always feels better to be the person that was kind and patient.
- The good things won’t happen if I don’t take the next right step to move towards them. All I can do is take the next right step. I won’t know the entire staircase, but if I keep putting one foot in front of the other I’ll end up where I need to be. I used to get weighed down in knowing and doing the right thing, but it’s more about the next right thing.
- My days and life are better when I’m grateful. I believe in an attitude of gratitude, but in October I started a formal gratitude practice. Each night I write down ten things I’m grateful for and it has totally transformed my days. When we look for reasons to be grateful, we find them.
- It’s refreshing and needed to “sit down on the inside.” I first heard this phrase on Emily P. Freeman’s podcast and it stuck. I love the thought of this, letting my soul sit down take a rest. I came to the realization I’m not very good at that and I would like to improve.
- People want to support me, but I may need to ask for it so they know how. Sometimes it’s best to tell your people exactly how they can support you instead of hoping they read minds and then being disappointed.
- I’m infinitely more successful with a plan. I thrive on planning. As we discussed earlier, things don’t always go according to plan, but I feel all around more productive and successful when I have one even if it’s just to get me started. Know yourself and work with your strengths.
- The best is always yet to come because I keep learning and improving. I learned in 2018 that this will always be true. Amazing things have happened, but even better things are ahead. Amen!
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.Romans 15:13
2019, lets do incredible things.